Take Yourself Out On A Date

Cup of coffee beside a few yellow flowers in a glass bottle

Back in college, I would often go to a coffee shop (or the school cafeteria), sit alone, and read. I would spend hours there and I loved every single minute of it. There was also a time when lived alone in a tiny condominium for many years. I would do chores, eat meals, and shop by myself all the time. I even saw movies by myself. I’d have to say, those were some of the most transformative and awesome years of my life thus far. Don’t get me wrong, I love hanging out with friends and family. But I guess I’m one of those people who love their independence. Many people assume that being alone means you’re lonely. On the contrary, it makes me feel confident and empowered. I just do my own thing and I don’t have to care what other people want (or don’t want). I learn a lot of things – from practical life skills to learning more about myself. I learn not to seek the approval and adoration of other people in order to feel “enough” (but I must admit, I still do this sometimes).

“Learn to be alone and to like it. There is nothing more freeing & empowering than learning to like your own company.”  – Mandy Hale

Now that I’m married, I don’t get as much me-time as I usually had. I now have to think of the Mister when I make even simple decisions – like what or where to have dinner. But every once in a while, I still take myself out on a breakfast or lunch date. I usually do this during my birthday, when I have the license to do anything that I enjoy doing. Having time by myself is still important to me, even if I don’t get to do it often anymore. It allows me to recharge, and to feel that even if I am already part of a team, I’m still my own person. Besides, you usually go on a date with your favorite person. How liberating it is when you are one of your favorite people, yes? 💜

4 thoughts on “Take Yourself Out On A Date

    1. absolutely. i love being alone whether i’m happy or sad. maybe it helps me work through my thoughts and emotions.. having said that, it’s ok to want to hang out with other people too, if that’s what you need in that moment ☺️

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