The last two years for me have been a constant stream of “No’s”. Even before this global pandemic, I’ve been feeling that my life has been on-hold. The things that I am wanting to happen aren’t happening. The plans that I made aren’t coming to fruition. Have you felt the same way? Waves of frustration and powerlessness fall upon you over and over, and it doesn’t seem to end. Yes, I know that a lot of things aren’t under my control and I can only do so much. But I forget that, and sometimes I need a little reminder now and then. If we don’t catch ourselves, it’ll be so easy to go down a dark spiral.
“Every season is one of becoming, but not always one of blooming. Be gracious with your ever-evolving self.” – B. Oakman
Waiting is hard (it’s not just me, right?), but it is a natural part of our life. Patience, resilience and having a support system helps a lot, but sometimes, it doesn’t make the wait easier. So here are some things that I remind myself of when I feel the frustration building up. Hopefully, it could help you too, if you’re in the same situation.
Things will take as long as it needs to
Whatever it is that we are waiting for will happen when it happens. Stressing about it will not help our mental and emotional well-being, nor will it make things happen faster. Accepting this can be extremely tough (especially if you have been waiting for quite a long time). But personally, I find that most of the stress and anxiety disappear when I get past this acceptance phase. Don’t get me wrong, the frustration can still creep back in, so we have to remind ourselves of this when that happens.
It helps to look at this season as an opportunity for preparation
Yes, yes. Easier said than done. Even I roll my own eyes at this statement sometimes, especially when the hopelessness level is way up high. But it’s true. This might be an opportunity to prepare ourselves for what we are waiting for. It could even be a time to take better care of ourselves, if we’ve been neglecting our needs for some time. Shifting our mindset can open up our eyes to the many things that we can do so that we are ready when the thing that we are waiting for finally comes.
As difficult as it is, don’t let this season of waiting go to waste. Do anything, even the littlest thing. Aside from taking our minds off the anxiety and frustration, we are also making good use of the time to do what we can. Whether it’s reading up, taking online classes, practicing a hobby, doing a spa day at home, connecting with old friends (virtually, in the meantime), journaling, meditating, working out, looking for a job opening, or starting that blog or YouTube channel (the list can go on and on), doing something else sounds better than spending time dwelling on the frustration of waiting.
When you have done everything you could, surrender
My mantra as of late is this: Today, I will not worry about things that I cannot control. I find that this gives me comfort, the thought of letting go of my burden. Personally, I believe in God and I surrender my waiting season to Him. Whether you believe in God, a Higher Power, The Universe, whatever it is you call it, having faith and hope that things are being taken care of will comfort you. Admittedly, there are times when my faith is shaken when I am at my lowest. So I repeat my mantra as frequently as I need to.
Are you in a waiting season as well? How are you coping, and what helps you get through the long wait?